“so… when are you having kids?” (Part 2)


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We are happy to announce that we are now planning the home birth of our first rainbow baby. Though it didn’t look like it last April when I was going through a miscarriage, God truly does work things out for the best. Please consider making a donation to our birth fund. Every little bit helps! Thank you so much.

Last January, I wrote Part 1 of this post and used a random person’s picture of a sonogram as the post image. Naturally, I’m sure you’re wondering if the picture to the left is my own pregnancy test. I’ll get to that soon, but for now, keep reading… 😉

In “so… when are you having kids?”, you may recall that I was lacking the ever-so-famous “maternal instinct” at the time of writing. Jereme and I had talked about the possibility, but neither of us knew if we wanted children. I thought for sure that I’d have that instinct by the age of 28, and figured that since I didn’t have it, it might never come.

Then a year full of babies came and went. Both of Jereme’s sisters gave birth to healthy, beautiful children. Whenever we saw them, we held them and played with them, and watched them do all the cute stuff babies do, and my heart began to grow fond of them both. Then a few months ago that instinct kicked in. You know the one. The voice inside your head that says… “I want one.” Does that mean we should have one though? Sometimes what you want isn’t always what you need. I wrestled with this doubt, and finally decided that we were going to stop not trying to have kids. I told myself that whatever happens, happens. And then in the process of not not trying, we pretty much ended up trying.

So, here’s the answer to that question that’s been in the back of your minds since you started reading: Yes. It’s my pregnancy test, and we are due in November. I was going to try and wait until week 13 (the standard “safe-zone” week) to start calling our friends and to make it “Facebook public,” but Jereme just couldn’t wait any longer. And in the words of my friend (and possibly my doula) Katy Kerley Bridges, “the more people who know, the more people who can pray.” So, now I’m asking you all to pray for us as we embark on this amazing journey of becoming parents.

As if all this isn’t exciting enough, we received more wonderful news today. My sister, Naida, and her family went to Florida to meet a potential birth mother for their adoption this past weekend and today, she confirmed that she has chosen them as the family to adopt her baby boy! As soon as I heard, my heart flooded with joy. I got tears in my eyes. The mom is due in July. Naida and I are 14 years apart, and our babies are going to grow up together!

I can’t wait to write songs for both of our children.


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  1. Congrats! Wishing you all the blessing in the world. Motherhood has always been my #1 priority in life. I think it still is, though they are now capable adults.

    I can’t wait to read more posts!

  2. Congrats Selwa and Jereme. I know you will be an amazing mother.
    So many babies lately. You guys are certainly keeping the population growing.

    Keep us posted!


  3. Kim Phillips on

    This is the best news I’ve heard all day!!! Congrats!!! I’m ecstatic for you THREE! And I will be praying for you!!!

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